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CB022158Trying to save for a new baby can be a challenge especially if all you can think about is buying new stuff. Pregnancy is a time for you to prepare even if we’re talking about financial aspects in here. There are steps you can take so you can save money during pregnancy.

1.If it’s your first time, you’re probably lost about everything that you and your baby need. Make a list of all the things you have to buy in advance by reading some blogs or joining in forums. Information is free over the internet and trust me, there is a load of valuable information out there. The most part in saving money while you’re pregnant boils down on how well you plan.

2.You don’t have to buy the most expensive crib or mittens for your baby unless your Jennifer Lopez. There are a plenty of affordable yet durable brands that will last you for years, you just have to figure out where you can find them. Go out there and start surveying stores. If you’re lucky, you will chance upon sales and huge discounts. You can also find great deals online like eBay and Amazon. Read the rest of this entry »


According to a study, breastfeeding may offer broad protection against breast cancer that extends to women who delay having children.
Previous studies have shown that giving birth before age twenty five and having many children protects against certain types of breast cancer , while delayed child birth is associated with a higher risk of breast cancer.
The most important finding of the new study is that breastfeeding seems to lower the risk of developing breast cancer that comes from having children later in life according to an associate professor of preventive medicine at the University of Southern California and the study’s lead author.
Results of the study were announced at the annual meeting of the American Association for Cancer Research in Los Angeles.
“As more women may chose to delay pregnancy until after age twenty five, it is important to note that breastfeeding provides protection against both estrogen and progesterone receptor positive and negative tumors”, the associate professor said.
Women who develop breast cancer that is hormone receptor negative have a much poorer prognosis than women with other type of breast cancer.
The researchers analyzed data for women age fifty five and older, including 995 invasive breast cancer patients, and found that breastfeeding appears to have a protective effect regardless of when they started giving birth.
This is important since having many children was only protective among women who began having children at an early age. Evidence suggests that women who have children after age twenty five can reduce their risk of breast cancer by choosing to breastfeed, the associate professor concluded.
According to US Census data, twenty five is the average age that women in the US first give birth.
The study was funded by the National Institute of Child Health and Human Development and by the National Cancer Institute.


I received a letter today from an exasperated mom of a 20-month old and it struck a chord in me. As a mother of six (4boys, 2 girls) I’ve been there, done that – and about pulled my hair out during the process.

Dee,

Harrison (my boy) is my first, and I think that is part of my issue. I am unsure of what is normal for a toddler aged little boy, and if I am expecting too much. I have read books, blogs, talked with other parents, but every child is so different. And what works with some children doesn’t work for others. I understand this. I guess I’m still trying to figure out what is best for Harrison.

My mother-in-law tells me often, while usually laughing, that Harrison is /acts just like his father.

A very active, energetic curious, pushes me to the limits little boy.

And as I mentioned in my original comment- I want to channel that energy in a good way.

I don’t want to crush his spirit. I want to encourage him to explore and learn, but not to where he thinks he can run wild. I want to be able to teach him that he can still have fun and stay with-in the boundaries that are there for his safety. How can I do this, and it actually work?

I really appreciate your taking the time to read and respond to me.

Jenifer

To be honest, the golden rules of motherhood that I’ve learned are VERY simple.

1) you listen – to what he’s thinking and feeling and then adjust your comments, advice, discipline and tactics accordingly. This is crucial to start now because as they get older, that listening can save their lives, literally

2) you pay attention – to how he acts, what he’s doing, his moods, his friends, his likes, his dislikes, the looks on his face, the words ‘behind the words’ when he’s upset. I swear if more parents actually PAID ATTENTION to their children, we wouldn’t have the teen crises we have today.

Paying attention isn’t just ‘watching’ a child – it’s truly trying to learn all you can about the child and then noticing the little things – the moods, changes in behavior, changes in friends, changes in likes and dislikes, changes in even facial expressions. How can a parent ever know how to handle a crisis with a child whom she doesn’t even really know?

Child Discipline 3) set reasonable boundaries and stick to them – if your child has a problem with temper tantrums in the grocery store check-out line, then choose that to work on this week.

Take him to the store every day if you have to, and tell him beforehand what he will get and what he will not. “Mommy needs to go to the store for paper towels, we are not buying candy for you today. If you start begging and crying, you will have a 10 minute timeout when we get home.”

And then stick to it. Even if it takes 2 hours to get him to sit still in time out for 10 straight minutes. Even if it is in middle of Blues Clues. With a child 3 or under, I’d probably do 5 minutes (that’s a looooong time to a toddler!).

But what I did with my kids is every time they said a word, moved their hineys off the chair or screeched, the clock started over. I used a simple kitchen timer and put it where they could see it and count down with it. Oh, and timing doesn’t start until protestations and crying stops. This same principle works on older children.

You simply adjust the method behind the disciplinary action to fit the age of the child. With my teens, it’s a cell phone. They lose it for one week – but if they beg, or even ask for it back, I tack on another day.

4) don’t sweat the small stuff – nobody should truly want a perfect child. A perfect child who never acts up, never throws a tantrum, never makes a mistake, always sits still, is a child who is stuffing their emotions and trying to live according to what he thinks everyone else wants.

What kind of person does that child become as an adult? One without original ideas, or at least a fear of acting upon and/or sharing any original ideas he may have. He’ll be an adult who cares more about what everyone else thinks than what he wants or believes is good for him.

And, he’ll be a child who never has the strength of self to test boundaries, and boundaries should always be tested – it is how we grow, learn, create and invent in this world. In other words, you’ll be raising a neurotic future adult.

My advice? Make a list of the most important things your child needs to learn – the most important social boundaries, personal boundaries, etc. And then work on those one at a time. If he throws a fit in public, so what? Remove him from the situation and give him a time out and know he’s normal – which is a very good thing.

Parenting Ideas 5) don’t try and shove a round peg into a square hole – one of the biggest crimes in our schools, in my opinion, is the lack of treating children as independent-thinking, unique individuals. All children are not the same – and thank God for that!

They don’t learn the same, they don’t think they same, they don’t feel the same and they don’t see the people and world around them the same. So why do we think we can teach them the same – whether it’s at home or at school? We can’t.

And this goes back up to number 2 – paying attention. As you grow to know your child more – and believe me, at the toddler stage a child changes daily – you’ll understand how better to teach them the lessons they need to learn.

My youngest son, who is my challenge child, doesn’t respond to corporal punishment, nor grounding, nor screaming and yelling. What he DOES respond to is talking. AFTER emotions have calmed down we sit and we talk. And I ask him what he was thinking, what he was feeling and I don’t let him get away with “I don’t know” or “I don’t remember”. He knows by now that we’ll sit for hours if need be until he has an answer.

When I understand as much as I’m capable of what he was feeling, we talk about how others who were in the situation felt or must of felt and then we go on to ideas on how EACH OF US could have handled it better and ways in which a similar situation can be avoided in the future.

Don’t give up, Jenifer. Doctors told me that my baby boy would “never become a productive member of society” due to his emotional issues and diagnoses of OCD, ADHD, and Oppositional Defiant Disorder. I was told I would be ‘better off’ if I “let the state care for him” so that I could better concentrate on my ‘normal’ children.

Needless to say, I told the doc where to go. Not that it’s been easy, it hasn’t.

There were days when he was your son’s age that I’d go and grab him out of bed after I’d FINALLY gotten him to sleep (he’d stay up for 36 hours at a time) because I’d realize I’d spent the whole day going “No, stop, quit it, don’t do that, knock it off.” I’d pick him up, sound asleep, and sit on the couch and hold him, telling him I loved him and fighting tears of frustration.

But today I have a 16-year-old boy who is bright, doing well in school, doesn’t drink, doesn’t do drugs and is well on his way to becoming the man I never lost faith he could become. He still has challenges and he is still challenging, but when people meet him, none can believe a doctor ever advised me to give up on him.

Now that I’ve written a book, I do want to tell you what the one thing is that I think is absolutely imperative for a child to learn. It’s really simple too – Respect. Respect for themselves, for others, for animals, nature and laws. I put respect for themselves first because if they learn that, the others just naturally fall into place.

When a child throws a tantrum in public, how many parents make sure the child understands how it made others around him feel? NOT what others around him thought – who gives a hoot about that – we can’t live our lives according to what others think of us and we shouldn’t teach children to either. But how did they feel? Sad? Distracted?

Teaching ChildrenThe other children in story time at the library, did his tantrum make them really sad because they couldn’t hear the storyteller? Did something he did scare them? You have to bring a child outside of himself during times of discipline.

There is no “because I said so” – part of learning respect is teaching that all actions and words have consequences and reactions in the people and world around them.

No man is an island, yet we so seldom teach our children about the human consequences of their actions. We are much more likely to tell them how much money they cost us, how they made us look, how mad we are, how much trouble they could have gotten in, etc.

But take them outside of themselves and help them walk that mile in another’s moccasins, and you will probably have a much better chance of molding your child in the ways you need to.

One more thing, and I apologize for this being so long, don’t spend every waking minute ‘teaching’. Kids learn – in spite of us parents. They learn in everything they do, say, hear, experience and encounter.

Instead of worrying about what you should be teaching him, stave off future regrets (trust me, they’ll happen) and simply take some time every single opportunity you can grab to just HAVE FUN. Even if you can’t see how he’s ‘learning’ – play – play and have fun with your baby. He will be that age for so little time and the play times are what they remember the most fondly.

My daughter, who is almost 18, had to fill out a questionaire for school not too long ago and one of the questions was, “What is your favorite memory with your mom?”. Her answer was about a time we were on a trip and stopped at one-horse town to go pee. The bathrooms were more like outhouses and we both had gas. (I can’t believe I’m posting this).

Parenting SkillsAnyway, after *noisily* trekking the 100 years or so to the outhouses, puttering the whole way, we collapsed in giggle fits to the point neither of us could breathe very well. Before that we had been in a hurry to get somewhere and we were running late. But that little moment of ‘fun’ stuck with my daughter all these years.

It floored me. After all, we’ve done together, talked about together, places we’ve gone together – and her favorite memory is a gassy trek to an outhouse. (shaking head)

I wish you the best of luck and a truckload of patience and love.

Many blessings,

Dee


While many parents struggle to keep their toddlers away from the TV, there are others who have to deal with active toddlers who are constantly on the move and who look for avenues to attract their parents’ attention all the time.

Parenting an active toddler can be challenging and only apt parental care can help such children in developing into responsible adults. You may have successfully set the limits during early age about acceptable and unacceptable behaviors through non-verbal actions but as your child turns into a toddler it is time to learn about the meaning of specific actions that the child indulges in.

It is important for you to explain the meaning of certain actions that you take too. If you scold the child for pouring the bottle of barbeque sauce on the floor and then continue to splash water on the floor to clean it, the child may get confused about what is allowed and what is not.

Explaining that the water is meant to clean the sauce is important so that your child does not get confused about what is ‘okay’ to do. Children often tend to misread situations and making sure that your toddler interprets your actions in the right manner is essential. Only you can keep the process moving ahead to (as they say) clear the cobwebs and help in improving concentration in your child.

The first aspect of handling an active and aggressive toddler is to make him understand that aggression is much more than a physical and behavioral expression. It is an emotion that one needs to control.

* Raise his feelings to the level of ideas. You can do this if you understand that a toddler cannot conceive a dialogue and express his emotions in a proper language.
* Pretend plays and narratives that promote and support contemplation of emotions help children to understand what lies beyond the physical and behavioral aspect of aggression.
* Make you child aware of all the emotions. It is obvious that we all want our children to grow up to be nice people. But it is equally important to make them understand the range of emotions that we as human beings are capable of experiencing.
* Do not try to shield your child from emotions like anger and aggression. It is wrong to believe that your child will not indulge in aggression if you avoid mentioning it in front of him. Actually, the more you attempt to hide, the bigger challenge it becomes for the immature mind to adapt to it later. It is also important to realize that even if you shield your child from such negative emotions, there will be a time when he or she will get exposed to it somewhere else. And this could be in a place where you are not available to provide adequate counseling.
* Provide counseling about good, bad, acceptable and unacceptable emotions when the right moment arises. So, instead of changing the channel when a good guy kills the bad guy, it is better to present positive ideas like ‘let us help them become friends’. In short, help your child to adopt a contemplative attitude towards emotions and work together to provide a proper channel to channel those emotions positively.

A permissive and a punitive parent in the same family is a common occurrence. Both are not doing their duty as responsible parents if they do not provide food for thought to the toddler before allowing or disallowing something. If you want to learn how to calm impulsive children you should help them learn the manner in which they can control feelings and give a positive expression to emotions.

Till the time children are able to reason out things on their own, the onus of interpreting various actions rests on you. Improper handling at this stage is liable to create child concentration problems which can cause major problems later.

Reference:

http://life.familyeducation.com/behavioral-problems/aggression/40420.html


Disorder of the stomach and bowels is one of the most fruitful sources of the diseases of infancy. Only prevent their derangement, and, all things being equal, the infant will be healthy and flourish, and need not the aid of physic or physicians.

There are many causes which may give rise to these affections; many of them appertain to the mother’s system, some to that of the infant. All are capable, to a great extent, of being prevented or remedied. It is, therefore, most important that a mother should not be ignorant or misinformed upon this subject.

It is the prevention of these affections, however, that will be principally dwelt upon here; for let the mother ever bear in mind, and act upon the principle, that the prevention of disease alone belongs to her; the cure to the physician. For the sake of clearness and reference, these disorders will be spoken of as they occur:

To the infant at the breast

The infant’s stomach and bowels may become deranged from the breast-milk becoming unwholesome. This may arise from the parent getting out of health, a circumstance which will be so manifest to herself, and to those more immediately interested in her welfare, that it is only necessary just to allude to it here. Suffice it to say, that there are many causes of a general kind to which it may owe its origin; but that the most frequent is undue lactation, and the effects both upon mother and child fully dwelt upon.

Anxiety of mind in the mother will cause her milk to be unhealthy in its character, and deficient in quantity, giving rise to flatulence, griping, and sometimes even convulsions in the infant. A fit of passion in the nurse will frequently be followed by a fit of bowel complain in the child. These causes of course are temporary, and when removed the milk becomes a healthy and sufficient for the child as before.

Sudden and great mental disturbance, however, will occasionally drive away the milk altogether, and in a few hours. A Mrs. S., aet. 29, a fine healthy woman, of a blonde complexion, was confined of a boy. She had a good time, and a plentiful supply of milk for the child, which she continued to suckle till the following January, a period of three months, when her milk suddenly disappeared.

This circumstance puzzled the medical attendant, for he could not trace it to any physical ailment; but the milk never returned, and a wet-nurse became necessary. In the following spring the husband of this lady failed, an adversity which had been impending since the date when the breast-milk disappeared, upon which day the deranged state of the husband’s affairs was made known to the wife, a fact which at once explained the mysterious disappearance of the milk.

Unwholesome articles of diet will affect the mother’s milk, and derange the infant’s bowels. Once, I was called to see an infant at the breast with diarrhoea. The remedial measures had but little effect so long as the infant was allowed the breast-milk; but this being discontinued, and arrow-root made with water only allowed, the complaint was quickly put a stop to. Believing that the mother’s milk was impaired from some accidental cause which might now be passed, the infant was again allowed the breast. In less than four-and-twenty hours, however, the diarrhoea returned. The mother being a very healthy woman, it was suspected that some unwholesome article in her diet might be the cause.

The regimen was accordingly carefully inquired into, when it appeared that porter from a neighboring publican’s had been substituted for their own for some little time past. This proved to be bad, throwing down, when left to stand a few hours, a considerable sediment; it was discontinued; good sound ale taken instead; the infant again put to the breast, upon the milk of which it flourished, and never had another attack.

In the same way aperient medicine, taken by the mother, will act on the child’s bowels, through the effect which it produces upon her milk. This, however, is not the case with all kinds of purgative medicine, nor does the same purgative produce a like effect upon all children. It is well, therefore, for a parent to notice what aperient acts thus through her system upon that of her child, and what does not, and when an aperient becomes necessary for herself, unless she desire that the infant’s bowels be moved, to avoid the latter; if otherwise, she may take the former with good effect.

Again; the return of the monthly periods whilst the mother is a nurse always affects the properties of the milk, more or less, deranging the stomach and bowels of the infant. It will thus frequently happen, that a few days before the mother is going to be unwell, the infant will become fretful and uneasy; its stomach will throw up the milk, and its motions will be frequent, watery, and greenish. And then, when the period is fully over, the milk will cease to purge. It is principally in the early months, however, that the infant seems to be affected by this circumstance; for it will be generally found that although the milk is certainly impaired by it, being less abundant and nutritious, still, after the third or fourth month it ceases to affect the infant.

Is then a mother, because her monthly periods return after her delivery, to give up nursing? Certainly not, unless the infant’s health is seriously affected by it; for she will generally find that, as the periods come round, by keeping the infant pretty much from the breast, during its continuance, and feeding him upon artificial food, she will prevent disorder of the child’s health, and be able in the intervals to nurse her infant with advantage. It must be added, however, that a wet- nurse is to be resorted to rather than any risk incurred of injuring the child’s health; and that, in every case, partial feeding will be necessary at a much earlier period than when a mother is not thus affected.

The milk may also be rendered less nutritive, and diminished in quantity, by the mother again becoming pregnant. In this case, however, the parent’s health will chiefly suffer, if she persevere in nursing; this, however, will again act prejudicially to the child. It will be wise, therefore, if pregnancy should occur, and the milk disagree with the infant, to resign the duties of a nurse, and to put the child upon a suitable artificial diet.

The infant that is constantly at the breast will always be suffering, more or less, from flatulence, griping, looseness of the bowels, and vomiting. This is caused by a sufficient interval not being allowed between the meals for digestion. The milk, therefore, passes on from the stomach into the bowels undigested, and the effects just alluded to follow. Time must not only be given for the proper digestion of the milk, but the stomach itself must be allowed a season of repose. This evil, then, must be avoided most carefully by the mother strictly adhering to those rules for nursing.

The bowels of the infant at the breast, as well as after it is weaned, are generally affected by teething. And it is fortunate that this is the case, for it prevents more serious affections. Indeed, the diarrhoea that occurs during dentition, except it be violent, must not be subdued; if, however, this is the case, attention must be paid to it. It will generally be found to be accompanied by a swollen gum; the freely lancing of which will sometimes alone put a stop to the looseness: further medical aid may, however, be necessary.

At the period of weaning

There is great susceptibility to derangements of the stomach and bowels of the child at the period when weaning ordinarily takes place, so that great care and judgment must be exercised in effecting this object. Usually, however, the bowels are deranged during this process from one of these causes; from weaning too early, from effecting it too suddenly and abruptly, or from over-feeding and the use of improper and unsuitable food. There is another cause which also may give rise to diarrhea at this time, independently of weaning, viz. the irritation of difficult teething.

The substitution of artificial food for the breast-milk of the mother, at a period when the digestive organs of the infant are too delicate for this change, is a frequent source of the affections now under consideration.

The attempt to wean a delicate child, for instance, when only six months old, will inevitably be followed by disorder of the stomach and bowels. Unless, therefore, a mother is obliged to resort to this measure, from becoming pregnant, or any other unavoidable cause, if she consult the welfare of her child, she will not give up nursing at this early period.

Depriving the child at once of the breast, and substituting artificial food, however proper under due regulations such food may be, will invariably cause bowel complaints. Certain rules and regulations must be adopted to effect weaning safely, the details of which are given elsewhere.

If too large a quantity of food is given at each meal, or the meals are too frequently repeated, in both instances the stomach will become oppressed, wearied, and deranged; part of the food, perhaps, thrown up by vomiting, whilst the remainder, not having undergone the digestive process, will pass on into the bowels, irritate its delicate lining membrane, and produce flatulence, with griping, purging, and perhaps convulsions.

Then, again, improper and unsuitable food will be followed by precisely the same effects; and unless a judicious alteration be quickly made, remedies will not only have no influence over the disease, but the cause being continued, the disease will become most seriously aggravated.

It is, therefore, of the first importance to the well-doing of the child, that at this period, when the mother is about to substitute an artificial food for that of her own breast, she should first ascertain what kind of food suits the child best, and then the precise quantity which nature demands.

Many cases might be cited, where children have never had a prescription written for them, simply because, these points having been attended to, their diet has been managed with judgment and care; whilst, on the other hand, others might be referred to, whose life has been hazarded, and all but lost, simply from injudicious dietetic management. Over-feeding, and improper articles of food, are more frequently productive, in their result, of anxious hours and distressing scenes to the parent, and of danger and loss of life to the child, than almost any other causes.

The irritation caused by difficult teething may give rise to diarrhea at the period when the infant is weaned, independently of the weaning itself. Such disorder of the bowels, if it manifestly occur from this cause, is a favorable circumstance, and should not be interfered with, unless indeed the attack be severe and aggravated, when medical aid becomes necessary.

Slight diarrhea then, during weaning, when it is fairly traceable to the cutting of a tooth (the heated and inflamed state of the gum will at once point to this as the source of the derangement), is of no consequence, but it must not be mistaken for disorder arising from other causes. Lancing the gum will at once, then, remove the cause, and generally cure the bowel complaint.


By Terri Hall-Jackson, Care2 Green Living contributing writer; http://www.care2.com/

With a full gourmet spectrum of options of baby foods on the market, how do you choose foods that are nutritious and safe?

First foods usually include a cereal, such as rice cereal, mixed with some water, breast milk or formula. This is usually followed by the introduction of single mashed or pureed fruits, such as bananas, apples or pears. When purchasing any baby food product, read labels in order to be sure that you are avoiding preservatives, artificial flavors and colors, unnecessary salt and sugar, and fillers. The organic baby food market is booming and it is easy to find a number of organic brands of baby cereal and jarred food available at most supermarkets.

An alternative or addition to purchasing prepared baby food is to make your own by mashing, steaming and pureeing fruits, vegetables and even meats. This is an easy way to know your baby is eating food that is fresh and free of non-essentials. A batch of pureed baby food can be prepared then frozen into individual servings that can be used throughout the week. Your baby will have his or her favorites; experiment before making a huge batch of food that will go uneaten.

The big thing you want to avoid whether purchasing baby food or produce so that you can make your own is pesticide residue. Certain foods are known to carry a high pesticide load; these include apples, peaches, spinach, green beans and pears—all of which are popular baby food choices. To protect your baby from ingesting synthetic pesticides, choose certified organic produce. For more info, check out this list of the top 10 foods to eat organically.

Delaying the introduction of solid foods until baby is 6 months old is recommended in order to allow better development of the digestive system.

And always use caution when using canned baby formula, as it has been found to contain dangerous chemicals.

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You can start baby massage at around 2 months, but avoid it for a week or two before and after a baby is vaccinated.

For babies this young, and until they are a year old, use just 1/2 percent dilution, and not more than 1 drop of essential oil in total at any one time. Only use Roman Chamomile, Neroli, Lavender, Mandarin or Rose with young babies-avoid all other essential oils.

For baby massage, mix 1 drop of essential oil in 2 tsp (10 ml) of base oil, then gently massage the arms, hands, legs, feet, back, chest and stomach. If a baby shows signs of wanting you to stop, then do so, but most babies enjoy being massaged. It is unlikely that you will use up the full massage mixture, so keep what is left over in a dark glass bottle. You can use this the following day for another massage, or in the baby’s bath.

Use only diluted essential oils in the bath. Baby skin is very sensitive, and babies have a habit of putting their fingers in their mouths and rubbing their eyes.

If a baby is restless and agitated, use Roman Chamomile or Neroli for massage or in the bath. To help a baby sleep, use Lavender in the bath or for massage, or put one drop on the baby’s sheet or pyjamas. If a baby has a tummy upset, use Mandarin in gentle massage over the baby’s abdomen.

Excerpted from “The Aromatherapy Bible” by Gill Farrer-Halls


Crying is a normal event in the lives of all babies.When a baby comes out of the woomb the first thing to do is crying. By the first cry he will take some air in to the lungs for the first time in their life.

After delivery if the baby does not cry then it should be initiated by slightly pinching or gently stroking the feet. From this it is clear that the healthy baby should cry and it is a normal physiological event, still some times it can upset the mother or family members.

We all know that a baby can’t tell his needs or troubles in words. The only way for him to communicate with others is by crying.Babies show some other signs like feet kicking,hand waving and head turning, etc. But the best way to take the attention of others is by crying.

Excessive crying may not have a firm definition because the crying habit changes from baby to baby and some babies can be calmed easily but some are difficult to soothe. If crying is distressing for the mother and home nurse it can be called excessive.

Many a times baby become quiet by giving breast milk or by carrying with a gentle rocking. Sudden onset of excessive crying means baby is distressed and needs attention. The causes of crying extends from simple reasons to life threatening conditions. Hence crying of a baby should not be ignored.

Most of the time it is difficult to find the cause of the cry. Common causes are discussed here for awareness.

Common reasons for crying:

* Hunger:

A hungry baby will cry till he gets fed. Here the old saying comes true – ‘crying baby gets the milk’.

* Wetting:

Urination and defecation causes some discomfort and results in crying till is cleaned and made dry .

* Company:

Majority of the kids need somebody near. If they feel lonely they cry. When their favorite doll slips away from their grip ,they cry for help.

* Tired:

When the baby is tired after a journey and unable to sleep. They feel tired in uncomfortable sorroundings or due to unhealthy climate.

* Heat & cold:

If they feel too hot or too cold they become restless and cry. A child is comfortable in a room with good ventilation.

* Tight clothing:

Tight cloths, especially during warm climate, can be intolerable for kids. Tight elastic in the feet and legs of clothes can also produce soreness.

* Dark room:

When the baby wakes up from sleep he needs some dim light. If there is darkness he will disturb the sleep of parents by crying. Of course he could also be irritated by strong light.

* Nasal blocking:

Child may not be able to sleep when he hass a cold and go on crying till the passage is open.

* Phlegm in throat:

This also causes difficult breathing resulting in cry. Often a sound can be heard with each breath.

* General aching:

Generalized body ache with restlessness is seen in flu and stages of some infectious diseases can result in continuous crying.

* Habitual cry:

Some babies cry without any real apparent cause.

* Diaper rash:

If a tight and wet diaper is kept for a long time it results in an irritating and painful diaper rash.

Rash can also be due to some allergic reaction to the elastic material of the nappy. When the rash appears it causes soreness and baby become sleepless and fussy. All other skin lesions like eczema, ecthyma, candidiasis, etc, also cause same problems.

* Earache:

Ear infection is common in wet climate. The infection may spread from the throat. Ear infection can result in rupture of the ear drum causing discharge of pus. Earaches usually become worse at night when lying down. Child will become restless and fussy and may not allow you to touch the ear. Some children with an earache rub the affected ear frequently.

* Colic:

When the baby cries continuously most of us diagnose it as colic. This problem is still a topic for debate because the exact cause for colic is not known and diagnosis is also difficult to confirm. Colic may be associated with rumbling and distention of abdomen. The child often feels better when lying on their abdomen. Some children may not allow you to touch the abdomen. If the child cries continuously, a doctor’s help is needed.

* Infections:

All infections cause some kind of pain or irritation resulting in crying. Infection may be anywhere in the body. Usually it is associated with fever, redness and swelling.

* Reactions to certain food:

It is said that one man’s food is another man’s poison. Some food items can produce allergic reactions. Allergy is manifested in the form of redness, breathlessness ,gastric symptoms and continuous crying.

* Hard stools:

Constipated babies with hard stools may cry when they get the urge to have a bowel movement. Some children hesitate to pass the stool because of pain.

* Gastro esophagial reflex:

Here baby cries with the spitting up of food after feeding. If this continues it may be due to gastroesophageal reflex. This is due to failure of the lower part of esophagus to close after feeding, causing regurgitation from the stomach. It is difficult to diagnose this condition and can be confirmed by giving antireflex medicines.

* Dentition:

During dentition (teething) child becomes restless with crying. Often associated with gastric troubles and diarrhea.

Some rare reasons

* Bowel obstruction:

Bowel obstruction is associated with severe pain and vomiting. Abdomen is distended with rumbling sound. Baby is constipated with absence of flatus (gas).

* Septicemia:

Invasion of pathogenic micro organisms in to the blood is called septicemia. Fever is associated with this condition.

* Torsion of testes in male kids:

When a male baby cries continuously his scrotum should be examined. Torsion of the testes produces severe pain which will be worse by touching the affected testes. When the testes is pressed upwards pain is relieved. If this is not treated properly it can damage the affected testes due to lack of blood supply.

* Meningitis:

Initially there may not be fever, hence the crying baby with alternate vacant stare and irritability should not be ignored. Fontanel (soft spot) is bulging. Neck rigidity and seizures may appear later.

* Retention of urine:

Children with retention of urine will have agonizing pain making them restless.

* Major injuries:

Major injury to any parts of the body causes pain. Occasionally children will fall while carrying and results in head injury. Head injury is associated with reflex vomiting and convulsions.


Add to 30 mls of vegetable oil:

* 4 drops of Thyme
* 6 drops of Fennel
* 4 drops of Cinnamon

Rub on tummy in a clockwise direction.


26.01.2008

From the first moment the infant is applied to the breast, it must be nursed upon a certain plan. This is necessary to the well-doing of the child, and will contribute essentially to preserve the health of the parent, who will thus be rendered a good nurse, and her duty at the same time will become a pleasure.

This implies, however, a careful attention on the part of the mother to her own health; for that of her child is essentially dependent upon it. Healthy, nourishing, and digestible milk can be procured only from a healthy parent; and it is against common sense to expect that, if a mother impairs her health and digestion by improper diet, neglect of exercise, and impure air, she can, nevertheless, provide as wholesome and uncontaminated a fluid for her child, as if she were diligently attentive to these important points. Every instance of indisposition in the nurse is liable to affect the infant.

And this leads me to observe, that it is a common mistake to suppose that, because a woman is nursing, she ought therefore to live very fully, and to add an allowance of wine, porter, or other fermented liquor, to her usual diet. The only result of this plan is, to cause an unnatural degree of fulness in the system, which places the nurse on the brink of disease, and which of itself frequently puts a stop to the secretion of the milk, instead of increasing it. The right plan of proceeding is plain enough; only let attention be paid to the ordinary laws of health, and the mother, if she have a sound constitution, will make a better nurse than by any foolish deviation founded on ignorance and caprice.

The following case proves the correctness of this statement:

A young lady, confined with her first child, left the lying-in room at the expiration of the third week, a good nurse, and in perfect health. She had had some slight trouble with her nipples, but this was soon overcome.

The porter system was now commenced, and from a pint to a pint and a half of this beverage was taken in the four and twenty hours. This was resorted to, not because there was any deficiency in the supply of milk, for it was ample, and the infant thriving upon it; but because, having become a nurse, she was told that it was usual and necessary, and that without it her milk and strength would ere long fail.

After this plan had been followed for a few days, the mother became drowsy and disposed to sleep in the daytime; and headach, thirst, a hot skin, in fact, fever supervened; the milk diminished in quantity, and, for the first time, the stomach and bowels of the infant became disordered. The porter was ordered to be left off; remedial measures were prescribed; and all symptoms, both in parent and child, were after a while removed, and health restored.

Having been accustomed, prior to becoming a mother, to take a glass or two of wine, and occasionally a tumbler of table beer, she was advised to follow precisely her former dietetic plan, but with the addition of half a pint of barley-milk morning and night. Both parent and child continued in excellent health during the remaining period of suckling, and the latter did not taste artificial food until the ninth month, the parent’s milk being all-sufficient for its wants.

No one can doubt that the porter was in this case the source of the mischief. The patient had gone into the lying-in-room in full health, had had a good time, and came out from her chamber (comparatively) as strong as she entered it. Her constitution had not been previously worn down by repeated child-bearing and nursing, she had an ample supply of milk, and was fully capable, therefore, of performing the duties which now devolved upon her, without resorting to any unusual stimulant or support. Her previous habits were totally at variance with the plan which was adopted; her system became too full, disease was produced, and the result experienced was nothing more than what might be expected.

The plan to be followed for the first six months. Until the breast- milk is fully established, which may not be until the second or third day subsequent to delivery (almost invariably so in a first confinement), the infant must be fed upon a little thin gruel, or upon one third water and two thirds milk, sweetened with loaf sugar.

After this time it must obtain its nourishment from the breast alone, and for a week or ten days the appetite of the infant must be the mother’s guide, as to the frequency in offering the breast. The stomach at birth is feeble, and as yet unaccustomed to food; its wants, therefore, are easily satisfied, but they are frequently renewed. An interval, however, sufficient for digesting the little swallowed, is obtained before the appetite again revives, and a fresh supply is demanded.

At the expiration of a week or so it is essentially necessary, and with some children this may be done with safety from the first day of suckling, to nurse the infant at regular intervals of three or four hours, day and night. This allows sufficient time for each meal to be digested, and tends to keep the bowels of the child in order. Such regularity, moreover, will do much to obviate fretfulness, and that constant cry, which seems as if it could be allayed only by constantly putting the child to the breast.

A young mother very frequently runs into a serious error in this particular, considering every expression of uneasiness as an indication of appetite, and whenever the infant cries offering it the breast, although ten minutes may not have elapsed since its last meal. This is an injurious and even dangerous practice, for, by overloading the stomach, the food remains undigested, the child’s bowels are always out of order, it soon becomes restless and feverish, and is, perhaps, eventually lost; when, by simply attending to the above rules of nursing, the infant might have become healthy and vigorous.

For the same reason, the infant that sleeps with its parent must not be allowed to have the nipple remaining in its mouth all night. If nursed as suggested, it will be found to awaken, as the hour for its meal approaches, with great regularity. In reference to night-nursing, I would suggest suckling the babe as late as ten o’clock p. m., and not putting it to the breast again until five o’clock the next morning. Many mothers have adopted this hint, with great advantage to their own health, and without the slightest detriment to that of the child. With the latter it soon becomes a habit; to induce it, however, it must be taught early.

The foregoing plan, and without variation, must be pursued to the sixth month.

After the sixth month to the time of weaning, if the parent has a large supply of good and nourishing milk, and her child is healthy and evidently flourishing upon it, no change in its diet ought to be made. If otherwise, however, (and this will but too frequently be the case, even before the sixth month) the child may be fed twice in the course of the day, and that kind of food chosen which, after a little trial, is found to agree best.